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Friday, April 28th, 2017 07:06 am
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Someone is vigorously bathing in my lap to make sure she looks lovely for her new human. :)

furiously grooming!

Barring disaster, we'll be transporting her in two weeks! And then she can get as much petting as she wants:

Thea getting lap scritches
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Since today is Sir Pterry's 69th birthday, it seemed as good a day as any to remind you that Leeds Waterstone's (not as pretty as Bradford, but bigger and with more events) is starting a Terry Pratchett Reading Group. The first meeting is on Tuesday next week, and the first book to discuss will be The Carpet People. You have to sign up in advance to join in; I already have.

Maybe see a couple of you there?

Continuing that walk:

Friday, April 28th, 2017 10:57 am
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 We next arrived at the village on South Hill.

This is the parish church s St Samson (a local lad who made it big in Brittany where part of my own ancestry comes from.




Here be pics! )

The Blood is the Life for 28-04-2017

Friday, April 28th, 2017 11:00 am
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QotD

Friday, April 28th, 2017 05:24 am
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"But I'm so over defending my own humanity. I'm so over providing a power-point presentation about the fact that I exist. And I'm completely done with engaging with anyone who has a clever theory explaining why they actually understand my soul better than I do.

"To be blunt: if your crazy-ass theory of the world doesn't ease the suffering of people whom you do not understand, maybe what you actually need is a new theory."

-- Jennifer Boylan, 2017-02-18, "I'm all done explaining my humanity"

Poem: "Pesach Sameach"

Friday, April 28th, 2017 03:19 am
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This poem came out of the April 18, 2017 Poetry Fishbowl. It was inspired by prompts from [personal profile] ng_moonmoth and [personal profile] technoshaman. It also fills the "slavery" square in my 4-3-17 card for the [community profile] origfic_bingo fest. This poem has been sponsored by [personal profile] ng_moonmoth. It belongs to the series Clay of Life.

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i got no patience for waitin' around

Friday, April 28th, 2017 01:25 am
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You want mobile Dreamwidth, Artie? You got it.

The base style REQUIRED is Neutral Good. That's the default "new user" style and is why I went at that one first. This is an extension (and something of a rewrite) of that style, entirely in CSS. It fixes many bugs on desktop, and gives you a functional mobile view of your reading list and your journal. It makes NO attempt to address system style issues on mobile.

The CSS overlay which you need to copy and paste into the "custom css" pane of the advanced style customisation interface is here:

http://solarbird.net/Livejournal/2017-04/neutral-good-update-solarbird-2017-04-27.txt

This will ALSO get you Navbar 2, the upgrade of Navbar I've been running for a while. (Yes, you can still disable it.) It will NOT get you Navbar 3, so you won't have the mobile version you see in the screenshots in my previous post. But the navbar will be better looking on desktop, and no worse on mobile.

THIS IS AN ALPHA RELEASE, only tested so far against Safari and Firefox. Please report bugs.

(Except for the one where replying to an extant comment in single-entry view causes iOS to autozoom still. I know about that one and I'll fix it. But other than that. Comments are particularly rough at the moment tbh.)

Art

Friday, April 28th, 2017 02:46 am
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 These owl paintings are awesome.  Look at how the brush strokes turn the paint into a sculpture medium to show the feather texture, especially around the faces.

Friday Links (100 days of scandal and lies edition)

Thursday, April 27th, 2017 09:42 pm
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It's Friday!

We're still packing and moving and packing and packing and... I finally had a responce to me ad giving away two four-drawer steel filing cabinets... and a few hours later the guy who responded said "never mind." I really don't want to have to pay someone to haul these away...

Anyway, here are the links I found interesting this week, sorted into categories.

Links of the Week



Tiny Jyn Erso Heads to Star Wars Celebration, Hands Every Leia a Copy of the Death Star Plans.

Stories Of Gay Men Tortured In Chechnya Read By Refugees In Heartbreaking Video.

This Week in Restoring Our Faith in Humanity



Someone Chained A Cross To Gay Street In NY. What Happened Next Was Beautiful.

Restoring Our Faith in the Rule of Law



Judge blocks President Trump's order that cut off funds to 'sanctuary cities'.

This week in the war on trans people



Undocumented Transgender Immigrants Can Either Hide Under Trump Or Face Death At Home.

This week in international hate crimes



Trump's been silent; Putin's shrugged it off. But you should care about Chechnya. Chechnya wants to 'eliminate' its gay population by the end of May. We can't sit back and watch.

This week in bi erasure



Report: Fear of Being Outed Prompted Killing by Aaron Hernandez.

Aaron Hernandez proves we have no idea how to talk about bisexuality.

This week in abusive people



10 Things I wish I’d known About Gaslighting.

My abusive narcissistic ex-husband -- Part 1: Falling in the hole.

This week in awful people



Scott Baio on ‘Happy Days’ Co-Star Erin Moran’s Death: ‘For Me, You Do Drugs or Drink, You’re Gonna Die’. (For the record, autopsy says she had stage four cancer and was likely the cause of death)

Erin Moran’s Brother Didn’t Hold Back While Shitting On Chachi And Chachi’s “Tiny” Dick .

News for queers and our allies:



Senator Patty Murray Is Trying to Ban Gay Conversion Therapy Nationwide.

Indiana transgender man named high school prom king.

This "13 Reasons Why" star explained why he decided to be open about his sexuality, and it's so important.

Science!



Another rain record falls for Western Washington: Seattle just broke a 122-year-old record for rain. That makes this October-through-April the wettest such period since record-keeping began in 1895 — and there was still another week of April left to go when this was published!

Fossil find reveals skunk-sized predator roamed Egypt 34 million years ago.

Earliest Fungus-Like Fossils Date Back 2.4 Billion Years.

Mammoths, sabre-tooth tigers and other megafauna went extinct because of ancient climate change.

What happens when you get a crayfish drunk.

Heliosphere, Our Sun's Sphere Of Influence, Is Not Shaped Like A Comet.

Cassini Photos: Probe Snaps A Spectacular Shot Of Earth In Between Saturn’s Rings.

Caterpillars Saving The Environment: Worm Parasite Could Stop Plastic Bag Pollution.

Science Fiction, Fantasy and Speculation!



Fix the Slating Problem Forever.

John Scalzi Ventures into The Collapsing Empire.

The Problematic Presentation of Gender in Ada Palmer’s Too Like the Lightning.

Will We Ever Know Why Disney Remade The Jungle Book? (Yes, it's from a year ago, but still worth a read!)

This Week in History



From Germany to Mexico: How America’s source of immigrants has changed over a century.

Culture war news:



Homeless Youth Shelter Refuses Donation From Gay Men's Chorus.

Seattle is investigating possible recruitment violations tied to the Garfield High School football team in light of allegations made by a youth from Texas who arrived in Seattle without any family here and played as a running back last season, then was tricked into flying home for the holidays and only learned later he had been deleted from the student database.

Viet Thanh Nguyen Reveals How Writers’ Workshops Can Be Hostile.

Benny Hinn’s Texas headquarters raided by feds.

NOM To Stage Yet Another DC Hate March After Drawing A Humiliating Crowd In The Tens Last Year.

This Week in Fighting Back in the Culture War:



Hacker aims to rub out ISIS with porn and LGBT imagery.

This Week in the Resistance:



The March for Science Shows How Bad Scientists Are At Politics.

This Week Regarding the Lying Liar:



The Drumbeats Don’t Add Up to Imminent War With North Korea.

Yes, Donald Trump set up senators for a photo op on North Korea.

Senators: Little learned during rare all-hands North Korea briefing.

The Scandals of Donald Trump: New documents show Michael Flynn was warned in 2014 that he needed to get permission before taking any money from foreign governments.

Trump administration talks tough on North Korea, but frustrated lawmakers want detail.

News about the Fascist Regime:



Amidst Backlash, Ivanka Trump Clothing Is Secretly Relabelled as Adrienne Vittadini.

John Oliver Calls Out Ivanka Trump and Jared Kushner for Duping America.

Hate group leader: Our allies 'are now very well placed' in the Trump administration.

Secret Service bans NRA members from bringing guns to President Trump’s NRA convention speech.

Department Of The Interior Scrubs 'Climate Change' Page.

This week in Politics:



Can Someone Remind Bernie Sanders That Abortion is an Economic Issue?

Obama returns — and avoids Trump. In his first event since leaving the White House, Obama sidesteps talk of his successor as he nudges future political leaders

Democrats Choosing Sanders to Lead are Leaving Too Much of their Base Behind.

GOP Leaders Weigh Saturday Health Bill Vote Amid New Support.

Troll This Politician And He Just Might Call Your Grandma — Literally.

This Week in Racists, White Nationalists, and the deplorables



The president of Gays for Trump thinks the "trans agenda" may slow down gay progress.

A GOP Lawmaker Has Been Revealed As The Creator Of Reddit’s Anti-Woman ‘Red Pill’ Forum.

http://nypost.com/2017/04/26/anti-semitic-politician-tricks-critics-into-raising-money-for-him/.

Farewells:



Erin Moran, Who Played Joanie on ‘Happy Days,’ Dies at 56.

Erin Moran was 'happy' and 'active' in final days and died holding husband's hand.

Things I wrote:



They’re just things, that’s what we keep saying….

You can have my Andre Nortons when you pry them from my cold dead fingers, & other lessons of moving.

Videos!



Cell Block Tango - Broadway Backwards 2015:



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CHAINSMOKERS - SOMETHING JUST LIKE THIS PARODY 🦇:



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UEEN | Somebody to Love (4K HD Visual Cover by José Rivera Jr.):



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Blondie - Long Time (Official Video):



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Big Spender - Twisted Broadway Melbourne 2013:



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Hurts - Beautiful Ones:



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[OFFICIAL VIDEO] Can’t Help Falling in Love – Pentatonix:



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Friday, April 28th, 2017 12:01 am
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* "U.S. says strategy on North Korea centers on sanctions, open to talks:" http://www.reuters.com/article/us-northkorea-usa-harris-idUSKBN17S21G

* "Trump: Chance of 'major, major conflict' with North Korea:"

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* "Booker: Stripped Trump State Dept inadequate for world challenges:"

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* It's a hidden way of making reproductive health too expensive for women to access. "Tax credits in GOP plan 'unusable' in NY:"

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* "Trump's tax plan is a big boon for…himself:"

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* "Trump review threatens to rip up Obama protections for wilderness areas:" https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/apr/26/trump-national-monuments-review-obama-wilderness

* "Trump attacks judiciary for blocking order on sanctuary cities:" http://www.politico.com/story/2017/04/26/trump-tweets-sanctuary-cities-237620

* "Homeland security unveils Trump's controversial immigrant crime office:" https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2017/apr/26/us-immigrant-crime-office-homeland-security-trump

* "Sessions vows to press legal fight on sanctuary cities:" http://www.politico.com/blogs/under-the-radar/2017/04/26/sessions-sanctuary-cities-237668

* "Treasury secretary can't guarantee middle class wouldn't pay more under tax plan:" http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/treasury-secretary-steve-mnuchin-guarantee-middle-class-pay/story?id=47051355

* Sean Spicer is insisting that it is somehow President Obama's fault that Republicans chose a literal foreign agent to be National Security adviser over vociferous Democratic objections. O.o I wish earth logic still applied. "Spicer blames Obama for Flynn’s security clearance:" http://thehill.com/homenews/administration/330925-spicer-blames-obama-for-flynns-security-clearance

* "Jared Kushner courts scandal with sketchy business backers:"

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* "Subject of Flynn seems to panic Trump and his allies:"

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* "Booker: Public pushback stopped Trumpcare, may be needed again:"

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* "The race for votes on health care is on, once again:" http://www.cnn.com/2017/04/27/politics/republicans-health-care-votes/

* "100 Years of Beauty Men: India (Aman):"

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* "Donald Trump's First 100 Days In Office | THE SIMPSONS:"

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* I genuinely laughed out loud multiple times and had trouble putting it down. "An Unattractive Vampire by Jim McDoniel:" http://www.fangsforthefantasy.com/2016/03/an-unattractive-vampire-by-jim-mcdoniel.html

* "Discount Armageddon (InCryptid #1) by Seanan McGuire:" http://www.fangsforthefantasy.com/2017/04/discount-armageddon-incryptid-1-by.html

* "Marvel Movies are not Marvel Comics:" https://slavetomyheadcanon.tumblr.com/post/160025679062/marvel-movies-are-not-marvel-comics

* Class: I've watched the first two. It was a little slow starting, but oh was it worth it! I perked up about where we got the Prince and the Math teacher backstory. I really liked the opposing perspectives and the complexity of what they are trying to talk about there: freedom fighter vs. terrorist, punishment vs. slavery and their willingness to let it remain complex. I definitely appreciate the characters and their different backgrounds, and I am glad the mother was played by a real paraplegic instead of an able bodied person, because it reassures me on all sorts of levels.

The thing that I like the very best so far is the decision to show Ram (the one male straight cis character) dealing with grief, body issues, and PTSD. I really appreciate that they haven't hand waved Ram's PTSD or his difficulty adjusting to losing his leg. Just because he got a magic prosthetic doesn't erase the massive effect the sudden loss of bodily integrity has on a person or the way so much of his identity is tied up in his identity as an athlete. I really appreciate that he's having to train the leg instead of it all being forgotten next episode, as most shows would do. I really appreciate his flashbacks to the sudden gory death of the really nice girl who genuinely liked him even though he is kind of a tool, and that he's dealing with all this stuff and even the other people who were there don't really get it. I like that they aren't all instantly friends. They present a bunch of small one on one relationships in the beginning of episode one, but they don't knit together instantly into a unified whole.

They really did an excellent job of showing realistic mourning. Ram's unwillingness to talk when forced, they way he was willing to talk to the character who'd mourned before and kept not forcing him, the way she talked about the process where she and her brothers started referencing her father in small ways and how that helped. I was hugely relieved at the end when Ram told his father about the amputation and the rest of what he's dealing with, and his father's supportiveness.

Class could be so much simpler and more cliche. Instead they decided to keep it complex and more interesting. I appreciated the bit in the first episode where they reference Buffy and Vampire Diaries, acknowledging their antecedents, which some of their stuff must necessarily overlap, while at the same time giving us the different home situations and moral complexity that points to the different directions they are trying to go in.

* Hint: It's not what you'd think. "Ten staples that every woman needs in her closet:" http://listing-to-port.tumblr.com/post/159558128314/ten-staples-that-every-woman-needs-in-her-closet

* National Poetry Month:

"Because I could not stop for Death – Emily Dickinson:" http://gwydionmisha.tumblr.com/post/160065784240/because-i-could-not-stop-for-death-emily

"Hawk by Mary Oliver:" http://gwydionmisha.tumblr.com/post/160067418932/hawk-by-mary-oliver

"Love by Billy Collins:" http://gwydionmisha.tumblr.com/post/160069145123/love-by-billy-collins

* Dragon Cave:

Fiction: Insurance Salesmen (part 1 of 1, complete)

Thursday, April 27th, 2017 11:44 pm
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Insurance Salesmen
by Dialecticdreamer/Sarah Williams
part 1 of 1, complete
word count (story only): 1174


:: This story takes place the morning after “Temporary Neighbors,” (part one and part two) ::




Edwina was just about to open the door to leave the boarding house when she realized that there were two large men waiting outside. She opened the door a fraction, setting her foot and surreptitiously shifting her weight to keep the door in position. “May I help you?” she asked in a warm, slightly vacuous tone.

“Are you the landlady?” the man on the left asked.

“Oh, no, she's still doing the washing up from breakfast,” Edwina gathered half a breath and forced herself to twitter like her aunt.

“We'd like to speak with her,” the man answered. “It's in regards to fire insurance.” Beside him, the silent one crossed his arms.

Fear darted from the back of Edwina's throat downward in a sharp, acidic spike. “If you would wait a moment, please, I'll ask her to come to the porch.”
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on gaslighting

Thursday, April 27th, 2017 09:25 pm
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(this is an edited version of a comment I made on one of Fayanora's posts a few years back. Figured it deserved wider distribution:

"There’s a form of mental torture called “gaslighting,” its name taken from a play in which a man..." http://t.co/bMtUp2LccQ

Abuse survivors deal with this a lot, and even more so when they are still being abused.

It's due to a major disconnect most folks have.

They (wrongly) believe that *intent* matters. So if it wasn't intended as abuse, it's not actually abusive.

But in reality, intent *doesn't* matter. You can do something with the best of intentions and still hurt someone if they are wired that way.

A good example is allergies. I don't care *how* much care and love you put into that dish of X. If I'm allergic to something in it, you'll put me in the hospital (or the morgue) by making me eat it.

Same thing applies to abusive behavior. Even the racial stuff and GLBT stuff.

But people will fight bitterly to avoid acknowledging this. Because if they do, it means they have to accept several things that they don't want to.

That good intentions don't matter. That other people are not like them, and thus don't react like they do. And worst of all, that being different that way is *not* wrong.

And that last is why so many reactions to getting called on stuff boil down to "you're doing this just to be contrary" (because they *literally* can't conceive of someone actually being/thinking "that" way)

I blame the golden rule for a lot of this. It *inherently assumes* that other people are just like you. The allergy example I used above points out the problems with that.

And gee, ever notice how many people don't *really* believe that allergies exist, they think that they are just people being unreasonably "picky".

Funny how that looks like the folks who claim that they aren't being insensitive/abusive.

The version of the "golden rule" used in metalaw works better but people really hate it:

Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.

People immediately jump to "but they can abuse that for all sorts of things". Which says a lot about how they think...

April 27--Inscribed on a grain of rice

Thursday, April 27th, 2017 08:49 pm
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Today was the day where I finally felt caught up, and could start working on future stuff. It felt good. I was able to work on some things for the fall semester and for the accreditation work we have to do.

I started watching The Handmaid's Tale on Hulu last night, and had a dystopian dream. I forget what was happening in the dream, but it was kind of disconcerting. I don't mind disconcerting dreams, as long as they don't feature the ghost of the Statue of Liberty.

When I was a kid, I watched a cartoon where some bad guys stole the top half of the Statue of Liberty, and the ghost of the top half came and told the good guy (maybe it was Underdog) where it was hidden. For days I had nightmares that the ghost of the Statue of Liberty was in my bedroom coming toward me.

I also have recurring dreams about a supermarket parking lot.

Anyway, the first episode was good, and I will pace out watching the rest of the season. I'm not a big binge tv watching person. I'm not really a tv watching person at all. Maybe because Malida is always binge-watching some Korean drama.

dragons

This is a picture from about 12 years ago when I used to wander around Sacramento taking pictures of everything I saw. It was along the side of a house where there was a Thai massage place. The entire yard was decorated with interesting things. It's long gone now.

So tired

Thursday, April 27th, 2017 11:01 pm
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I would love to go through my journal and see if this is the subject line that is used the most often. Because, honestly, unless I sleep a good ten or so hours, I'm always tired. And Roo doesn't believe in mommies sleeping that long. It cuts into his quality first breakfast time.

We were talking about pets at New Job today, and I just barely held it together. I kept having to correct myself from saying "I have three cats", and it just wrecked me. It just fucking wrecked me.

Mum sent me a video from Jellybean. She knew I was very sad about Jimi and made me a card and wants to come visit me.

Still don't seem right: me drawing breath when Jimi isn't. Seems like I should fix this. It keeps feeling like I should fix this. I keep on not fixing it.

And yeah, that's all I've fucking got in me. That's all I've fucking got.

Thankful Thursday

Thursday, April 27th, 2017 08:15 pm
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Without much ado about nothing,

  • Selling our old house. The deal hasn't closed yet, but it seems unlikely that there will be any problems now that the inspection period has ended.
  • Getting closer to buying our new house on Whidbey Island. We could still turn up something fatal during our due diligence period, but we have decided to stay with Whidbey in any case.
  • A mortgage close to getting approved.
  • Enough income, even in retirement, to get a mortgage.
  • Good friends close by our new house.
  • Retirement. To be honest, I am not entirely thankful for this; I will greatly miss being surrounded by brilliant people. Ask me next week.
  • My family of choice. In which I include not only my sister of choice but my darling wife. Both of these amazing women have chosen to live with me. I'm not entirely sure why, but I'm going to shut up and enjoy the ride.