darkoshi: (Default)
This was a very interesting read. Several of the things mentioned in the article made me think of my niece, who was born in 1995; things which I thought were simply traits of hers, but which may be more general traits of her generation.

Have Smartphones Destroyed a Generation?


Saturday, November 12th, 2016 07:07 pm
darkoshi: (Default)
The Google election results has a horizontal scrolling list of "Election Insights" at the bottom. One of the items says "Clinton won more counties where at least 30% of the population is foreign born."

That one struck me as strange. Do we have *any* counties where 30% of the people are foreign born? In considering it, I guessed that if so, they are probably near the Mexican border. But how many could there be?

This site shows the percentage of foreign born people in each county: Immigrants in the United States: County-level Data on the Foreign-born.

The color-coding isn't very good - it's hard to distinguish between some of the colors. And in some cases the colors are wrong, based on the actual numbers shown when you click the county.

So far I found 5 counties which have more than 30% foreign born.
That said, I am surprised how many places have between 10 and 30% foreign born people.

Whoa. Miami-Dade county in Florida has 49.65% foreign born!

day done did

Sunday, June 14th, 2015 02:18 am
darkoshi: (Default)
Changed the sheets.
Washed 2 loads.
Washed dishes.
Watched a double episode of Criminal Minds (wasn't planning to, but got caught up in the story while Qiao was watching it).
Took a shower, cleaned the bottom of the shower curtain.
Figured out how to lift up/remove the front porch handrail so that I can reattach it to the brick (I need to replace the screws that used to hold it in place).
Transplanted some border grass from a place it doesn't need to be growing to a bare spot by the fence.
Went out to eat Indian for dinner, shopped at an Asian grocery - got some fresh Methi (Fenugreek) leaves and a can of Tangerine Schweppes.
Looked up info on kalira as we had seen them in a painting at the restaurant and not known what they were.
Browsed the internet.
Played Words With Friends.

"Dor" movie (2006)

Saturday, July 12th, 2014 11:31 am
darkoshi: (Default)
This is a very good movie. It's about an unlikely friendship between two women.

A movie review.

This review gets to the heart of the movie, but has more spoilers.

Early in the movie, the term "mehr" is used. In Islam, it is a payment by the groom to the bride, and is a mandatory part of a marriage contract. That Wikipedia page has more interesting info on the subject. I only mention that as I was unfamiliar with the term; religion is a very minor aspect of the movie.

The 2 Indian states shown in the movie are Rajasthan and Himachal Pradesh.

Another perhaps interesting tidbit is that in this movie, it is the non-Muslim woman who wears the headscarf/veil (see: ghoonghat), rather than the Muslim one. And that based on the above Wiki page, only 1.63% of the population in Himachal Pradesh is actually Muslim.

rude questions

Saturday, January 4th, 2014 01:18 am
darkoshi: (Default)
Ask Culture and Guess Culture - points out some interesting differences of perspective among different people regarding what is polite or not. I'd probably instead call it "Ask Culture" versus "Beat-around-the-bush Culture" or maybe versus "Drop-hints-and-wait-to-be-offered Culture".

The MetaFilter post was regarding a specific situation: An acquaintance asking if they could stay at your house for a certain number of days.

Some people feel this is a perfectly acceptable question, and that one should simply reply "No" if one does not want to allow it (I think I fall into that category). Other people feel that even asking such a question is quite rude - that you can mention you'll be in town (and possibly hope that you may be offered a place to stay), but you should never directly ask the question, as that could put the other person in the "uncomfortable position of having to say no".

I suppose the latter people feel that their home is a sanctuary; sacrosanct; and that it is highly rude for anyone to ask to stay over unless they've first been invited to do so. Perhaps the discomfort with saying No is related to the culture valuing the appearance of graciousness and friendliness, but only up to a point which is assumed to be understood by everyone involved. Going beyond that point is seen as rude.

I doubt the "Ask" versus "Guess" thing applies to all questions, only certain kinds... perhaps only questions which could be considered to be asking for a favor. Surely the latter group feel it is okay to ask other things such as "Would you like to meet somewhere to eat dinner together while I'm in town?".

However, even the question about staying over at someone's house has many aspects to consider. It doesn't have to be considered a favor. Some people communicate very rarely, but still consider each other friends, and might still like to meet up with each other occasionally. Among some people, having someone they haven't seen in a long time stay over at their house could be seen as a great way to catch up with them, even if the main purpose of the other person's trip isn't to visit with them. Other people only feel friendly with people whom they remain in close contact with, and wouldn't consider having lesser acquaintances stay over. One person may see things from the one point of view, while the other person may see it from the other point of view.

Among some acquaintances, it may seem a natural thing that if they are traveling to your town, that you might offer them a place to stay, and that they'd reciprocate if you were traveling to their town.

Given how many friends and acquaintances a person may have, it may not be possible to remember which of those people have offered you a place to stay while visiting, versus those who haven't. With the "Guess" group of people, it seems you could only safely ask the question of close family members, even if other people had explicitly offered it to you in the past.

There may also be an issue with some people saying things like "We'd love to have you over sometime" without really meaning it. Don't some people say that simply out of politeness, not expecting the other person to ever take them up on the offer? And perhaps some people mean it in the sense of "I wouldn't mind you dropping by for an hour or so" while other people mean it in the sense of "I wouldn't mind you dropping by for a few days".

There will always be some people who might want to take advantage of you by getting a free place to stay, while not caring about you otherwise. Some people may pretend friendship and end up robbing you or worse. But simply asking if it is okay to stay over doesn't mean that the person is trying to take advantage.

This is all very theoretical for me. I haven't ever had a non-family member ask to stay at my house, nor have I ever asked to stay over at a non-family member's house. My perspective is based on my mom and her friends. When traveling, my mom has several times stayed with old friends, and old friends have occasionally visited her.
darkoshi: (Default)
It has occurred to me that my impression of what it is like to be "old" is based on the older people I've known during my "youth" (which includes my life up until now). But these people are/were of a different generation than me. So, some of the qualities I associate with being old are actually based on generational differences, rather than on age itself. For example, how old people dress, the music they like to listen to, and the activities they engage in.

Long ago, I used to have a vague anxiety / incomprehension about getting old, as I couldn't picture myself as one of the old people I knew. I couldn't picture myself wearing the clothes they wore, for one thing. Once I consciously realized that getting older didn't mean that I'd start wearing completely different clothing and shoes, some of the incomprehension faded.

Today, a few more realizations clicked into place. When I get old, my musical preferences won't suddenly shift. When I'm old, there will be other people my age who enjoy listening to death metal, and rap music, and techno. Probably via headphones and ear-buds. There will likely be old people chatting away on their cell-phones just like younger people do today. Old people will surf the internet and send emails, and will still seem incomprehensibly old-fashioned to the youth of the future.

In the same way as I feel pretty much the same now as when I was younger, I'll feel pretty much the same as I do now when I'm older. Except for the physical changes.

blood message

Tuesday, May 7th, 2013 11:14 pm
darkoshi: (Default)
This is a very strange t-shirt.

These pants are quite striking.
darkoshi: (Default)
Cultural genderizing. It happens all the time. It irks me when I encounter it.

Buying the girls pink gift-cards that say "Princess" on them, while buying the boys gift-cards which show tools or a cellphone on them.

Saying that the little boy is "good-looking".. mentioning that one isn't sure whether they can still call him "pretty"; the mother replying that maybe they can still call him pretty for another year.

Teasing a boy, "When I said "girl", you looked over at me!".

Dressing the children up in gender-specific clothing. So that even with a tiny baby, a stranger knows whether it is a boy or a girl simply based on the color and style of the clothes.

In a store, a little boy pointing at an item of clothing, and the adult saying "No, that's for girls". In another store, another set of kids and adults, and a similar thing happening.

beijing opera

Sunday, October 25th, 2009 07:29 pm
darkoshi: (Default)
I got to see a performance, "Highlights of Classic Chinese Theater", yesterday. The performers were a group of students of Beijing Opera, from China. They performed episodes from various plays. The costumes and make-up were fantastic. Some parts reminded me of my own dancing; there's certain movements I do when dancing, which are like theirs. I probably picked up those movements from various things I watched when I was younger.

The last episode was a fight scene between 2 warriors in the dark. The stage was not dark, but the play was based on them not being able to see each other. It was wonderful.

If any of you have the opportunity to watch a performance of Beijing Opera, I highly recommend it.

Next week there is going to be a performance of Chinese folk dancing at the Koger Center. I am thinking of attending that one too.