>>I think I'm still trying to comprehend how each ancillary is the same or different versus each other and their ship in terms of memories/recall and processing power, etc.<<

I was chewing on that right up to the end of the trilogy, honestly. I never quite resolved it to my satisfaction.

(Mostly, this made me want to write fic real bad, but given I can't remember anyone's names in that trilogy, I don't think that's going to happen.)

The pronoun thing didn't bother me either, but: also nb. So ??