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wondering...
1. canvas sneakers.... they're not very waterproof, are they? and they don't usually have much arch-support, do they?
2. it sounds like you can't put a condom on an unerect penis... why? would it slip off because it would be too loose? or is it difficult to put on just because the penis isn't stiff?
3. safer sex.... when people talk about wanting "no exchange of bodily fluids", does that usually not include saliva? how safe or unsafe is open-mouthed kissing considered to be? what about oral sex? doing oral sex without a barrier is generally considered unsafe, isn't it?
As for that last question... I was reading a book in which the author, who seems to be relatively well-known and respected, was saying that except for monogamous heterosexual couples trying to procreate, everyone else should always use condoms while having sex, because due to the risk of diseases, there was "no reason to exchange bodily fluids". But then later he was talking about his partner doing some pretty good oral sex on him. And I wondered if he used a condom for that too, or not...
2. it sounds like you can't put a condom on an unerect penis... why? would it slip off because it would be too loose? or is it difficult to put on just because the penis isn't stiff?
3. safer sex.... when people talk about wanting "no exchange of bodily fluids", does that usually not include saliva? how safe or unsafe is open-mouthed kissing considered to be? what about oral sex? doing oral sex without a barrier is generally considered unsafe, isn't it?
As for that last question... I was reading a book in which the author, who seems to be relatively well-known and respected, was saying that except for monogamous heterosexual couples trying to procreate, everyone else should always use condoms while having sex, because due to the risk of diseases, there was "no reason to exchange bodily fluids". But then later he was talking about his partner doing some pretty good oral sex on him. And I wondered if he used a condom for that too, or not...
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2. It can't be done because the penis isn't stiff. Condoms have to be unrolled onto a penis, which requires an erection. It just doesn't work the other way around.
3. Normally, yes. It's an all or nothing kind of deal. Depends on the disease. A bad idea. Yes, it is usually considered unsafe unless you're in a strictly monogamous relationship.
He's got a point - it's very dangerous these days unless you've got iron-clad proof that your partner is clean. It's entirely possible that it was with a condom on (an unlubricated one, in all likelihood - spermicide and condom lube taste nasty).
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2. i still don't get it. Guess it's going to take some real-life experience on that one for it to click. Maybe i should at least buy a few condoms and see what they're like close-up.
3. i'm not sure which questions each of your answers go to... but i sort of get your drift. and i really should do some more research on the topic, so that i don't feel as iffy as i do now on it. i guess i was also wondering, if unprotected oral sex is dangerous, wouldn't sharing saliva also be so.. but if so, why don't i ever hear people talking about not kissing, in regards to safer sex (because i've never heard about ppl using protection for kissing)
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2. Good idea. The classic banana-and-condom routine might give you a better idea.
3. I tried to keep them in order as closely as possible. Try the AMA website, or some of the LGBT websites for a better idea of the risk incurred. I really don't know how dangerous kissing would be.