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Tuesday, October 23rd, 2007 07:11 pmI responded to a thread on masochism in one of my groups, and about whether one can really experience pleasure and suffering at the same time, by citing some examples of where one can feel conflicting things at the same time. Such as....
One's head may be burning with a fever, yet one can feel chilled
at the same time. Or one can eat hot chili, and wince from
the spiciness, yet enjoy the flavor and/or the knowledge
that one is "tough" enough to handle the heat. Or one can be
outside in the winter, and shivering from extreme cold,
while enjoying the scenery.
Sometimes, whether one interprets something as mainly pleasurable or a form of suffering may depend on what one's mind is more focused on. Or on which stimuli seems more prominent.
So maybe that's all there is to it. That to me, the unpleasantness of overt D/s has outweighed the pleasantness of it, at least with the people I've interacted with so far. And in one case, the unpleasantness of a different aspect of the relationship outweighed the pleasantness of the D/s aspect.
One's head may be burning with a fever, yet one can feel chilled
at the same time. Or one can eat hot chili, and wince from
the spiciness, yet enjoy the flavor and/or the knowledge
that one is "tough" enough to handle the heat. Or one can be
outside in the winter, and shivering from extreme cold,
while enjoying the scenery.
Sometimes, whether one interprets something as mainly pleasurable or a form of suffering may depend on what one's mind is more focused on. Or on which stimuli seems more prominent.
So maybe that's all there is to it. That to me, the unpleasantness of overt D/s has outweighed the pleasantness of it, at least with the people I've interacted with so far. And in one case, the unpleasantness of a different aspect of the relationship outweighed the pleasantness of the D/s aspect.