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This morning, I was sitting in my room at my computer. Forestfen addressed me from the other side of the door, saying my name in a certain tone of voice... in a not overly loud tone, but slow and rising at the end, as if questioning and/or astonished by something. My gut reaction is negative - that she is about to accuse me of something, or nag at me about something. So I snap back at her, "WHAT?!!!"
But it was just that she had noticed that the power to the TV was on, and she was wondering if she had forgotten to turn it off last night (or had I happened to already turn it on this morning)? And since I had snapped at her, she then commented about me being in a bad mood already in the morning, when I should instead be bright and chirpy. And she asked if something had happened to make me feel bad? At which I am naturally annoyed, and snap back "NO!".
While this is happening, my mental reaction is that she shouldn't have used that tone of voice with me - that it is her fault that I snapped back at her. And that now she is nagging at me about being in a bad mood, when I'm not in a bad mood, and it is all her fault!
But it really isn't her fault how I react. It is my own doing. I should control my reactions. I should keep a pleasant tone of voice, and not get so easily upset when she talks to me. Even if she were accusing me of something or nagging at me, or saying something which seems totally ridiculous to me, or asking me about things I don't feel like talking about, I should still stay calm.
But it was just that she had noticed that the power to the TV was on, and she was wondering if she had forgotten to turn it off last night (or had I happened to already turn it on this morning)? And since I had snapped at her, she then commented about me being in a bad mood already in the morning, when I should instead be bright and chirpy. And she asked if something had happened to make me feel bad? At which I am naturally annoyed, and snap back "NO!".
While this is happening, my mental reaction is that she shouldn't have used that tone of voice with me - that it is her fault that I snapped back at her. And that now she is nagging at me about being in a bad mood, when I'm not in a bad mood, and it is all her fault!
But it really isn't her fault how I react. It is my own doing. I should control my reactions. I should keep a pleasant tone of voice, and not get so easily upset when she talks to me. Even if she were accusing me of something or nagging at me, or saying something which seems totally ridiculous to me, or asking me about things I don't feel like talking about, I should still stay calm.