i'm not straight, but my partner is

People keep assuming that Qiao and I are married; either calling him my husband, or me his wife. It was a bit amusing at first, and strange, and uncomfortable. But I'm getting resigned/used to it. It doesn't really matter what people think, and it's not worth rebutting.

Perhaps they simply feel it's more polite to refer to someone whom you may or may not be married to as your spouse, rather than to mistakenly call your spouse your boy/girlfriend.

I think I dislike the word "wife" used in reference to me as much as I dislike the word "woman".