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ok or not so kay
Thursday, June 16th, 2016 12:18 amSomeone mentioned OkCupid in a post of theirs, so I decided to check out my old profile:
Ok. So I'm not exactly male or gay. But they didn't have any options for androgyne and asexual. That's like asking what people's hair color is and only giving options of black and brown to choose from.
And I'm not exactly a donkey either. But oh well, if I were, I'd be one kick-ass donkey.
I never used OkCupid for looking for a partner; I created my account after getting involved with Qiao. He wanted us to compare questions/answers to see how compatible it rated us, for fun. So I didn't put all that much effort into my profile.
Today I surmised that OkCupid might have more gender options nowadays than they did back then. Sure enough, I could now select my gender as agender, nonbinary, etc.
But in order to save those selections, the page forces me to select an answer for "Include me in": "searches for men" or "searches for women" (those 2 options are in a drop-down - you can only select one or the other).
The "include me in" question only shows up if you select an option other than man or woman as your gender.
So. I understand the reasoning, that most people on the site are only searching for men or women, and not selecting one or the other would drastically reduce possible matches. But it rather defeats the point of someone like me entering their real gender.
Ok. So I'm not exactly male or gay. But they didn't have any options for androgyne and asexual. That's like asking what people's hair color is and only giving options of black and brown to choose from.
And I'm not exactly a donkey either. But oh well, if I were, I'd be one kick-ass donkey.
I never used OkCupid for looking for a partner; I created my account after getting involved with Qiao. He wanted us to compare questions/answers to see how compatible it rated us, for fun. So I didn't put all that much effort into my profile.
Today I surmised that OkCupid might have more gender options nowadays than they did back then. Sure enough, I could now select my gender as agender, nonbinary, etc.
But in order to save those selections, the page forces me to select an answer for "Include me in": "searches for men" or "searches for women" (those 2 options are in a drop-down - you can only select one or the other).
The "include me in" question only shows up if you select an option other than man or woman as your gender.
So. I understand the reasoning, that most people on the site are only searching for men or women, and not selecting one or the other would drastically reduce possible matches. But it rather defeats the point of someone like me entering their real gender.