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I often try to comprehend what role sex plays in a relationship, for sexual people.
There are so many things which indicate that for most sexual men, a relationship without sex is unthinkable; that sex is the most important thing about a relationship to them. Which generally gives me the impression that they are only in a relationship in order to have sex. But a lot of the time, that doesn't seem quite true either.
Perhaps a relationship without sex is to them like a relationship without touch would be to me. I could get some things which I'd need from a relationship, without there being any physical touch, but that one lack would be a large one. I wouldn't choose such a relationship unless there was no chance at a relationship including touch. I would feel the lack of being able to hold hands, lean heads together, hug, etc. Being hugged, and being held, is important to me.
Any relationship just based on touch would not suffice for me - I'd have to be attracted to the other person in the first place, and there'd need to be a certain amount of compatibility. So even though touch is very important, it's not the only important thing, nor necessarily the most important thing.
There are so many things which indicate that for most sexual men, a relationship without sex is unthinkable; that sex is the most important thing about a relationship to them. Which generally gives me the impression that they are only in a relationship in order to have sex. But a lot of the time, that doesn't seem quite true either.
Perhaps a relationship without sex is to them like a relationship without touch would be to me. I could get some things which I'd need from a relationship, without there being any physical touch, but that one lack would be a large one. I wouldn't choose such a relationship unless there was no chance at a relationship including touch. I would feel the lack of being able to hold hands, lean heads together, hug, etc. Being hugged, and being held, is important to me.
Any relationship just based on touch would not suffice for me - I'd have to be attracted to the other person in the first place, and there'd need to be a certain amount of compatibility. So even though touch is very important, it's not the only important thing, nor necessarily the most important thing.