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I seem to have this problem where whenever someone responds to my personals ad, which I've got up on a couple of bdsm sites, that my initial reaction upon reading their message and looking at their profile is negative and pessimistic... I feel like promptly responding in a polite but declining manner. Which is definitely not going to help me meet anyone.
I'm not sure if my initial negative reactions are truly warranted in all cases.. or if it's just a bad habit of mine... When someone I don't know talks to me or pays attention to me, my gut impulse is to get it over with and make it stop as quickly as possible.
But most people seem pretty nice once I do chat with them.
But if it says the guy smokes regularly, and I hate smoke... I mean, why even chat with them...? Although I did end up chatting with someone else who's a smoker, and he does seem quite cool.
Sigh.
I'm afraid. Afraid of talking to strangers. Afraid of getting into some situation that will make me uncomfortable.
Hmmm.
I'm not sure if my initial negative reactions are truly warranted in all cases.. or if it's just a bad habit of mine... When someone I don't know talks to me or pays attention to me, my gut impulse is to get it over with and make it stop as quickly as possible.
But most people seem pretty nice once I do chat with them.
But if it says the guy smokes regularly, and I hate smoke... I mean, why even chat with them...? Although I did end up chatting with someone else who's a smoker, and he does seem quite cool.
Sigh.
I'm afraid. Afraid of talking to strangers. Afraid of getting into some situation that will make me uncomfortable.
Hmmm.